First, I invite you to take a deep full belly breath, then release through pursed lips. Open and close your jaw a few times. Better right? Now with an open heart take a load off and be here now:

I’m curious if you are judging yourself today. Maybe you have fallen off the “New Year, New You” bandwagon? I want you to know that you can relax and let go of this external clock. While it can be a wonderful tool to utilize the fresh start energy that most of the world is tapped into right now (you could think of this as getting a free ride on an already moving train), remember that you also have your own mode of transportation. You get to let go of the expectation of the world and focus on your heartbeat, your timing and how you would like to feel today and everyday. Or if you’ve simply hit a roadblock that has given you pause on your path, know that there’s a reason.

When setting a new goal or intention for your life, there tends to be lots of roadblocks on the path to fulfillment. How you see those roadblocks will determine how your journey plays out. You may feel like no matter how hard you try to get back on track and align with your new goal, you stop pursuing it because it can often feel overwhelming. Instead of meeting these roadblocks with defeat or with disdain like they are wasting our time, what if we could see these roadblocks as opportunities or universal guideposts actually saving us time in the grand scheme of life.

I love reminding myself of these countless stories of folks (you may have a story like this of your own) being late to work, just to find out that if they left one minute sooner they would have been a part of a massive crash on their normal highway route. I believe this is divine timing. The universe, god, your angels, your higher self, and guides popping in to help guide you on your path. Now, I don’t believe that every time we’ll be saved from the “crash” because sometimes it’s an experience we’re meant to have, but you get the idea. It’s happening for you and your growth.

That’s a hard pill to swallow. It requires complete faith that there is a reason for everything you go through. I still struggle to make this my default response: “yes that’s right, this is the journey I’m supposed to have”, especially when shit hits the fan, I can feel tears or redness rising in my face. My emotions definitely move when I hit these roadblocks myself. If anger arises, it’s a good cue that something has to shift. Either internally or externally. Asking questions like “Am I being too hard on myself or is there something I’m doing that isn’t serving me?” Instead of letting rage get the best of me in those moments, I’ve learned how to let my anger be felt and supported in my body, and then ask myself “what is it that needs to change” and “what can I do to course correct or accept my new reality”.  Anger is a great tool to initiate shifts in your approach. Anger means action, a move or breakout of this situation is required. Anger is also a beautiful window into what we truly desire. Grab a journal or an album and explore anger if it arises and dive in if you feel inspired.

Other times when hitting a hard stop on the path, the tears stream down; a feeling of defeat. I let myself feel and sit with the grief of failure and let it move through me. Nothing really to do besides to feel the sadness in the moment. When the fear or grief dissipates. Ask questions like “what am I really upset about?”. I get into the why behind what I’m doing, then reconnect with the feeling of my mission to see if it’s still something I want to pursue. Does it bring me joy and align me with my truth? If it does, I ground back down into my mission and keep going because I know after a dip, there’s always a lift. If it’s a feeling or goal I don’t care about or it’s not for my highest good anymore, I get to release it. Fully and completely. Maybe there’s more tears here. 

The big thing to remember when pursuing new ways of being is that we have both all the time in the world and no time to waste. Time is a funny construct that I believe is really useful to help remind us of impermanence, but it’s used inappropriately a lot of the time creating terrible stress around the completion of tasks and to do’s. Allow yourself to build a better relationship with time. Be both in flow on your journey and operating in time. Remind yourself that getting redirected most often suits your highest and best good. Allow yourself to be shot into a new realm of happenings as you maneuver roadblocks aka gateways into another possibility. 

Worry less about the time that’s passing and bring yourself into the present by asking yourself about why you’re pursuing a particular thing. That makes the present moment rich with purpose and aliveness. It’s in those present moments that we are actually building our life and most would argue the journey to the goal was more profound than achieving the goal itself. It’s the golden nuggets you pick up on the way after facing struggles that arise that fuel your soul. 

Focus on the feeling of what you want to bring in. If the struggles are hard to swallow and make you question your pursuit. Good. This will only add fuel to your fire or let you know it’s time to put this one out and find another camp. The only waste of time is not honoring every moment that is a part of your path. This looks like bypassing feelings and signals because you would like something to happen faster or differently. Best to be with what is and work through the learning. I find this always gives me a richer and more fulfilling experience no matter if I’m on time in my eyes or not. Pursue your life in every moment with fresh eyes and see the path as it is in this moment. Tend to it and leave the judgment of how it’s happening behind. This is how you start to develop your own internal clock, letting go of external expectations on how your life should look by now. 

Remind yourself that everyday is a great day to start, end or just be. Your truth matters and it’s always with you. Feel into your soul. What sparks your fire? Please do more of that. Allow yourself time to start and end whether it’s January 1st or March 7th. Here’s to continuously respecting time and consistently recalibrating to help you align with a path that keeps your spark vibrantly alive.